Thursday, October 18, 2012

Nude Beach Day II part 4

I don’t know much about lesbians and even less about discrimination and equality laws in Hong Kong. I know that discrimination against people who aren’t Chinese is legal – or at least widely accepted. I know that it was illegal to be a gay man in Hong Kong until just recently, but being lesbian was never illegal. Gay marriage is illegal and if you’re gay in Hong Kong you probably don’t tell many people. I know a few guys who are probably gay, but they’ve never told me they are. I’ve never heard about any violence against gays – people in Hong Kong aren’t the violent type – but being gay is mostly frowned upon.

It probably takes a lot of balls to join a gay organization and march in parades. The lesbians at the beach were taking a big risk. Not only were they announcing that they were gay, but they were doing it at a nude beach – which probably isn’t legal in Hong Kong. There was a mix of Chinese and white people. I assume most of them were foreigners. There was even a black girl. It must be really hard to be a black lesbian in Hong Kong. It's hard enough to be straight and black in China.

Once we realized that we were in the middle of a lesbian field trip I started to get offended by the girl who was hitting on Lily. How did she know we weren’t a couple? We were obviously there together and if she assumed we were lesbians, why not assume we were a couple? And why hit on just Lily and not me?

Once we realized where we were it was more obvious that a lot of the casual conversations we were having was flirting and girls hitting on us. We didn’t see it at first because it never crossed our minds. When a guy I don’t know comes up to me and starts small talk I assume he’s hitting on me. When a girl does it I assume she’s just making small talk. I’ve always known I could be wrong about the guys, but now it turns out I was wrong about the girls.

One hairy girl came up to us and stood with one of her feet on a basket the way a guy would, trying to give us a clear view of her crotch – just the way a guy would. When I say she was hairy I don’t just mean her big afro bush. It looked like a razor had never touched her body. She looked down at us and said, “Yeah, smooth. Just the way I like it.” I didn’t say anything, but I thought if she likes it smooth, why not shell out a couple bucks and get a Gillette. Maybe she was the butch lesbian in the bunch.

Another girl only talked to Lily and wouldn’t even look at me. I wasn’t even there as far as she was concerned. More girls hit on Lily than on me. Lily has blonde hair and bigger breasts. She’s prettier than I am, so I can understand why she was more popular. It didn’t matter anyway. None of them were going to get any from us.

Only one Asian girl hit on us. She seemed to like me more than Lily. Maybe Asians like dark hair. I don’t know.

Most of the girls didn’t hit on us at all. I think some of them could tell we’re not lesbians. I’m sure some just weren’t interested. You could tell that some of them were couples, so they weren’t there to score.

Even though we weren’t part of the group, we had some interesting conversations and we both walked away with a few phone numbers – but not from the girls just looking to get laid. By the time we left we made a few new friends.

I’m glad we went to the beach that day. I wasn’t expecting so many people there, but they turned out to be pretty friendly and I was never as uncomfortable as I would’ve been if they were men. By the end of the day I was comfortable being naked around a bunch of girls. It was a good day to be naked. The sun was shining, it didn’t rain and the water was great.

I think I’d be willing to go back again some time. I’d have to check some kind of event calendar. I don’t want to go when it’s a truck driver’s field trip day.


  1. Wow, that's incredible. Who knew that there was such a progressive scene in HK? Very inspiring.

    I know one male gay couple -- an American guy and a local Hong Konger -- and unfortunately the Hong Konger keeps it a secret and he says that he lives with his 'roommate.'

    This lesbian group, at a nude beach no less! Very interesting. Shows a lot of hope for Hong Kong.

    Funny about how not noticing when girls hit on you. Sounds good though, to feel safe and comfortable. All in all a great blog :)

  2. I think Hong Kong still has a long way to go. I know if I were gay I wouldn't exactly announce it from the rooftops around here. But it's definitely better than the Mainland.


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