Monday, August 26, 2013

Summer Highlights part 4

Another great thing about the big house is the kitchen. My apartment has a typical Hong Kong kitchen. It’s a sink and a very small counter up against a wall. There’s barely enough room for the toaster oven or rice cooker – and never both at the same time.

The big house has a western style kitchen with a real oven. It’s great. I can actually bake things like cookies and brownies. Have you ever tried to make brownies in a toaster oven? It doesn’t work.

It’s not that I’m a great baker – I’m not even close – but even mediocre homemade cookies are always better than boughten. Plus you get that fresh baked cookie smell in the house.

There’s also the issue of living with roommates. In the Hong Kong kitchen there’s barely enough space in the kitchen for more than one person at a time. If I’m in there making something, no one else can make anything at the same time. In the big house, you can fit a whole football team in that kitchen.

Thursday, August 22, 2013

Summer Highlights part 3

Not only is there plenty of room for everyone at the big house, but there’s also a very nice pool. That’s a great luxury to have in a place as hot & humid as Hong Kong. Of course, Hong Kong has public pools, but they’re pretty disgusting. Once you’ve seen someone stand at the edge of the pool and urinate into the water, you don’t feel like going back there again. You also can’t swim naked in public pools. I can – and very much do – swim naked at the big house.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, once you swim naked, you don’t want to go back to wearing a bathing suit.

The big house also has a hot tub, which is always a good thing. A long soak in a hot tub is just what the doctor ordered after a long day. If you can’t have a pool, a hot tub’s the next best thing. Even better is having both.

Monday, August 19, 2013

Summer Highlights part 2

Another great thing about staying in the big house is that it’s a lot bigger than my tiny apartment. I love Lily & Kevin to death, but 3 people in a 1 bedroom apartment is just too crowded. The big house has more than enough bedrooms and our own private bathroom for each of us. I can’t exaggerate how nice it is to have my own bathroom.

The living room of the big house is bigger than my entire apartment. Each of the private bathrooms is bigger than my apartment’s bathroom – and one is huge.

Each bedroom has more closet space than my entire apartment – which doesn’t say much. Hong Kong apartments aren’t known for their spacious closets.

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Summer Highlights part 1

The best part for me was having Ryan back in town. We hadn’t seen each other since the cruise and that was all the way back in June. Seeing him in Hong Kong is a lot easier. There’s none of the stress of travel and we don’t spend too much time seeing the sights like we do on a trip. He’s seen as much of Hong Kong as he wants to see, so that meant more time for us in that wonderful house. That meant loads & loads of steamy hot sex.

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Cyber Bullies

I don’t like bullies. I mostly feel sorry for them. Can you imagine how pathetic your life would have to be if you felt the only way you could express yourself was to pick on people weaker than you?

Bullies in real life are mostly cowards. The best way to defeat a bully is to stand up to them. They feed off of fear and if you’re not afraid of them, they don’t know what to do.

Cyber bullies are a little different. Because they’re anonymous – or at least think they’re anonymous – standing up to them doesn’t really work. Schoolyard bullies want to hit people who won’t fight back. Cyber bullies want people to talk to them. If no one talked to them, they’d be invisible. The worst thing you can do to them is ignore them.

What I don’t understand is teenagers killing themselves over cyber bullies. I know teenagers love to be martyrs – everyone is out to get them, no one understands them, life is so hard on test days. When I was a teenager, people talked about suicide all the time – but it was just talk. Most of us knew that suicide was the stupidest way to solve a temporary problem.

Teenage bullies used to be limited to your own neighborhood. Now you can meet bullies from all over the world. The big difference to me – and where I really get lost in all this suicide over cyber bullies – is that bullies at school can be very hard to avoid. Bullies online are very easy to avoid. If someone at school is harassing you and the adults don’t care, you’re pretty much on your own. If someone online is harassing you, just ignore them. How do you get to a point where you think suicide is a solution but you never considered not going to that site anymore?

People shouldn’t have to stay away from certain websites just because of troublemakers, but if going to that site is really make your life so miserable, why keep going? Who is forcing these children to go to these websites?

Now some people want to outlaw some sites and send the owners to jail. Isn’t that like arresting the producers of a TV show because someone didn’t like it and killed themselves? Who is responsible when they don’t change the channel? Or better yet, turn off the TV and go outside once in a while.

Friday, August 9, 2013

What I Did On My Summer Vacation part 2

What made this year at the big house different from other years is how much all of our lives have changed since last year. When we first went to the house, Ryan lived in Hong Kong and we lived together. Lily & Kevin lived together in their own apartment. Now Ryan lives in China and Lily & Kevin live in my apartment. We went from 2 couples living in 2 different apartments to one couple living apart and the other couple living with me. Living with 2 other people in such a small apartment has definitely changed my relationship with them – for the better I hope.

I didn’t really know Kevin all that well before he moved in. I knew him mostly from how Lily talked about him and all the times I saw them together. We’d never spent any time together just the 2 of us. Now he’s one of my best friends.

Lily was already a close friend, but since we started living together, we’re even closer than ever. She’s not just my best friend in Hong Kong – she’s the best friend I’ve ever had anywhere in the world.

Unfortunately, Ryan & I don’t see each other nearly as much as we did when we lived together. We’ve been lucky enough to take a few trips together – which you can read about if you buy my books Hailey’s Bali Diary, Nudist Cruise [/plug]. I’ve also gone to Fuzhou a couple of times and he’s come to Hong Kong.

I think if we could all live at the Clear Water Bay house all year then it wouldn’t be hard to convince Ryan to move back to Hong Kong.

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

What I Did On My Summer Vacation part 1

It wasn’t really a vacation. I still went to work. It only seemed like it was a vacation while we were all at the Clear Water Bay house. Kevin’s boss goes away every summer and lets him look after the house. Lily & I also move in since there’s plenty of room. What made it even better was that Ryan was in town while his band had a short term engagement in Hong Kong.

We all stayed in the house the entire time Ryan was here. Now he’s back in Fuzhou. Lily & Kevin are still in the house full time and I’m staying there part time. At first I thought it wasn’t right to stay there without Ryan, but now I’m agreeing with Lily & Kevin. There’s really no reason not to stay there – other than it’s faster to get to work from my apartment – so I’m going to move back in. Summer isn’t over yet and there’s no reason I should act like it is just because Ryan went back to Fuzhou.