Monday, October 28, 2013

Fuzhou Trip part 3

The trip was great – mostly – and the hotel was very nice. We got a really good hotel because it was either that or a really cheap hotel – or stay at his apartment with all his roommates. The hotel made it very different from my first trip to China. Privacy is a wonderful and rare thing on this side of the world.

China is always a strange place to go to. Even though I live in Hong Kong, I still think of China as a different country. They’re technically the same, but they’re very different in a lot of ways. It’s like living in New York and visiting Kansas – except you need a visa and the money is different.

For this trip, we spent a lot less time sightseeing. Ryan showed me all the main attractions in Fuzhou the first time. This trip was about spending time with each other.

We got in a big fight – mostly because we never really see each other anymore. When Ryan moved to China, I thought it would be for a few months and then he’d come back to Hong Kong. That was 15 months ago. He’s obviously not coming back anytime soon. He makes more money there and, even though he doesn’t really like living in China, he likes it better than Hong Kong. I could never do my job in China so moving to him is out.

Since he left, we’ve taken a couple of vacations together and I’ve gone to Fuzhou and he’s come to Hong Kong, but we usually go months without seeing each other in person. We talk on the phone and Skype all the time, but it’s not the same. So we decided we need to make more of an effort. We’re not old enough to have a long distance relationship without physical contact for months at a time. We’re in our prime. We need to touch and be touched.

Ryan just might be the only foreigner in China who doesn’t have a thing for Chinese girls, but if 2 months ever turns into 6 months, there’s no way he’s going to be able to hold out. He’s at that age where a car commercial can give him an erection. I’m not much better. Car commercials don’t do it for me, but I want some action just as much as he does. The difference is that it would be easier for me to cheat on him than for him to cheat on me. I have more options. That and the lack of sex scares the hockey sticks out of him.

So we decided to make more of an effort and see each other more often. It doesn’t have to be a vacation or a week in Hong Kong or Fuzhou. Even just a day or two is better than nothing. Flights between our cities are short and not very expensive. He can come here without a visa and I have a multiple entry visa. I just need to get a new one before it expires. Getting a visa to China is actually a lot easier than people think.

We haven’t decided when we’ll see each other again, but it’s definitely his turn to come here.


  1. Glad you guys had a good time. Sucks that you had a big argument but its normal. happy you guys resolved it. Tell us some of the funny and saucy stories from you trip! :)

  2. I'm thinking about putting them all together after I've taken a few more trips.


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